Negativity

Negative people really step on my toes… Why you ask? I think a lot of it boils down to the fact that I’ve been raised to know that the words we speak are very powerful weather positive or negative there is power in our tongue.

I began to notice how much it annoyed me when I was sitting my GCSE’S many people I was surrounded by and even some of my friends would say things like ‘I know I’m going to fail’ or ‘I know I’m going to do crap’ not only are you fuelling the doubt in your mind but you are essentially setting yourself up to fail. As a student myself, I can be sympathetic towards people who have not revised at all or not as much as they should have and are feeling sceptical about an upcoming exam talking down on yourself is only going to knock your spirit. You don’t know what questions are going to come up in the exam, having a negative approach towards it to me is like telling yourself you want to fail. The phrase ‘Failure is not an option’ is a very common one… a lot of people need to apply that to their lives.

Negativity is infectious; I don't need or want that kind of energy around me! More times than less the people who are talking down on whatever scenario deep down want to succeed and do well but the spirit of failure and self-doubt is creeping up on them. How can u expect to do well if you're saying all sorts of comments? If you're not feeling confident about something my advice is to get a piece of paper write down the problem, what you think the resolution is and how you plan on resolving the issue. Remember to stay positive other people aren't going to do it for you. 

Where do insecurities come from?

Dictionary definition of the word insecurities:

'Lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt'

If someone told me there wasn't anything they had ever particularly felt insecure about I would have to raise a brow. Probably no one knows the thing(s) you are most insecure about but I believe even the most confident people have come face to face with this issue even if it was remotely (they may have overcome it).

'A person who is confident is a person who realises that they have something going for them or that they have something that others don't, someone that is sure about themselves' - Reni.

Being insecure is far from a good thing. It can affect a person’s self-esteem, make them feel very uncomfortable and ultimately hold them back from achieving great things. So I question...

Where do insecurities come from?

• Being put down
• Comparing yourself to others
• Trust issues

These are three things that I have noticed although I'm sure other people would be able to add to it. Being put down can happen in school or even in your place of work I've found that it's the things that upset/offend you that stick with you or that you are more likely to remember. This can have a knock on effect causing you to feel insecure about your body or capability.

Comparing yourself to others in doing so you start to realise the differences between you and that person and when those differences pile up you begin to feel like 'You're not good enough'. They say everyone has a gift, many people do not know what there gift is yet but I can say the wrong place to go looking for it is in somebody else. Taking time out to find yourself like really find yourself. If someone asked you "What do you like doing?" would you be able to say something other than "Watching TV" and if someone asked you "What do you want to be when you're older?" would you have an answer other than "I don't know"?

Some people find it hard to trust other people for so so many reasons which is the most common case of trust issues, but I find it really sad when people don't trust in themselves. It's easy to loose faith but you've got to have some in yourself as not a lot of people in this Earth are going to do that kind of stuff for you.

Where do insecurities come from…definitely something to think about!